The real danger of unhealed wounds is not the wound itself, but what it makes us susceptible to believe. In the last two entries, I talked through identifying wounds and allowing God’s healing. Really, identifying evil agreements we’ve accidentally made should be done simultaneously. I’ve listed resources to help with this down below.
What are evil agreements?
First, they’re deceptive—which means we usually agree with them because we honestly think they are the truth, but they’re not! Jesus told us, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free” (John 8:31-32). By contrast, Jesus gives insight into the way the evil one works, “…not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies” (John 8:44).
Second, agreements give permission. There’s a way we can come under evil’s influence even when we’ve done nothing wrong! This is something I had not considered—and that’s why I fell prey to it. Satan and his fallen angels are terrorists–very smart terrorists. Paul warns the Corinthians to forgive “…in order that Satan might not outwit us. For we are not unaware of his schemes” (2 Cor. 2:11). If you are unaware, you’re susceptible.
Evil can wound us through the intentional or unintentional sins of others. If that wound, or those wounds go unhealed, he can suggest a lie that seems true (and remember the best lie is 90% true). He doesn’t fight fair—often evil inflicted on young, tender hearts can be the most effective stronghold for an evil agreement: “Don’t trust anyone—they’ll all hurt you.” “You’re worthless, you’ll never amount to anything.” “You’re flawed, that’s why people leave you.” “Your body is not your own—you’re dirty, evil.”
So we start to react and act out of fear, protection, desire to control in order to not feel the pain of those unhealed wounds—and before you know it, we are living out of agreements that get us sinning against God and others, wounding others, and get this—not believing we’re wounding others—just like those who wounded us didn’t see the deception clouding their own judgment.
So abused boys grow up to be harsh, abusive fathers because they act or react out of unhealed wounds. Sexually abused women end up using their bodies to make money in porn, yet help create more lust-driven, porn-addicted men who will treat other women as objects to be used. Spiritual leaders act or react out of wounds and sin against others, which Satan can use to drive many further away from God.
But thank God—Jesus has given us authority to overcome ALL the power of the evil one. We can break the cycle through Christ. So how do we break these agreements?
1). Write down agreements. List agreements that you may have believed (or still believe). Often they are accusations, condemnations, fear-motivated thoughts, self-protective (as opposed to God-protected) inclinations, lies about your identity that do not line up with what God says is true about us if we have taken Jesus as forgiver and leader (go read Ephesians chapter 1 and 2 substituting personal pronouns “I” or “Me” to hear your true identity and nature in Christ).
2). Write down God’s truth. What does God say is true according about this in the scriptures (so you can soak your mind in the truth and be set free of this lie)? Use www.Biblegateway.com to search topically, or ask spiritually wise people who know the Bible to help you. You may find it helpful to personalize it (Instead of “nothing can separate us from the love of God,” “nothing can separate me from the love of God”). Download the Next Steps PDF from the Heart Scan message on 8-24-14 www.gatewaychurch.com/podcast.
3). Renounce the lie. Tell God out loud that you renounce this lie (say what it is), and you agree with His truth (say what He says).
4). Make a list of Daily Beliefs. This is something Michael Warden suggested to me, and it’s been very helpful. I wrote down 5 Daily Beliefs (based on God’s truth that opposes evil agreements), and I say them every day to renew and transform my mind in accordance with God’s truth (Rom. 12:1-2). “Today, I CAN and WILL hear Your Spirit and follow Your will. Even if circumstances look bleak and all I see ahead is suffering and a cross—You are guiding me as I stay willing and obedient.” That’s one example.
What are some of the agreements you’ve fallen prey to, and what’s the Truth? Share some of them in the comments, so that others can see they’re not alone—we can all stand and fight together with spiritual weapons.
Waking the Dead, John Eldredge
Victory over the Darkness, Neil Anderson
21-Day Brain Detox – I’m going to post a separate blog on this resource developed by Dr. Caroline Leaf, a Ph.D. in Neuropsychology and a devoted Christ-follower. Many of my friends say it’s really helped actually clean out the negative thinking and lies.